A lot of things frustrate me in life.
Smearing my nails after having worked extremely hard on painting them.
People who text and drive-- you know, the ones who sit at green lights.
When someone uses all the toilet paper, which leaves you to stare at an empty roll--or debate to cry for help.
However, what tops any toiletry problem is hearing this:
"Awh, I wish I had your relationship!"
"There aren't any guys out there for me..at least any good ones."
"OMG I CAN'T EVEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS SOO CUTE OMFG."
Alright, so the last one is a bit exaggerated, but you can imagine how someone's comment might have closely resembled it.
You would think I would appreciate these kind of outbursts. Honestly, I admire the thought, but it bothers me that people think a solid relationship is some kind of cosmic being. An unattainable rarity.
Almost like finding the toilet paper roll completely filled.
So yes, like most topics, I have to put my "two cents" into the love conversation and express what I firmly believe about relationships.
Numero Uno, (this is about all I got out of 4+ years of Spanish classes) if you are searching on "Tinder" for your soul mate, think again. Some people believe that what you put into the universe will come back to you. You know, be happy, get happy. Karma. Well, no matter how you slice it, the cliché quotes ring true for relationships. You will get what you give. If you are looking on a hookup website, all you will find is....? You can do the math.
PLEASE STOP WITH THE INSTAGRAM PICS. Okay, I will own up and say sometimes I've posted a selfie too many, but I never get it twisted with my bf. We used to be religious #mcm and #wcw posters, until we realized how silly we looked. Who do we need to prove our love to besides one another? And doing it through Instragram? Yuck! So please, stop looking for relationships because you want the "perfect couple photo". If you look close enough at cute bf/gf pics, you'll start to realize how ridiculous the matter is. I mean, who took the picture of them? How did they get the shot oh-so-flawless? Obviously some planning must have went into it, making the "effortless moment" all the more idiotic. Aka, there is more to a relationship then wanting the publicity.
Okay, so social media is alive, but since when is chivalry dead? I mean, I blame the 20th century media... but really, why is it dead? Let's bring some door-opening, courtship-goodness back into play! What's wrong with going "steady" with someone? What's wrong with a guy paying for your meal? Anymore it seems like a "hangout" at someone's house is sufficient for a first date. Please, please, please, go on many dates! If I could tattoo this across my back, I would. But that would obviously be rather insane. Instead, I stick to my bold font. GO ON DATES. Don't be the couple who tells people their romantic first-date consisted of chilling at someone's house. And the way the times are rolling, it seems that first dates are comprised of more than just "chilling". Wink, wink. I will not tread too deeply into that area, however, let me just use a wise saying my mother told me. "If a fire burns madly, it will burn out the quickest. However, it is the smaller flame that will burn the longest." I compare this saying to my love with my boyfriend, Matt. We were best friends before we started dating, and when we started dating, we went on several dates. In fact, our first date was at Friendly's-- I was too nervous to go to Red Lobster. Two years into our relationship now, we still go out all the time! Don't rush into things and just settle! Actually get to know the other person.
And not by just "hanging out" with them.
Speaking of temporary hook-ups: people are truly oblivious to commitments. My friends will tell me all the time that they are looking for someone special, but nothing too serious. How is anything "special", easy?!?! I mean, it's stupidity at its finest. You want love, make a commitment. If you aren't dating for a future, than what the heck are you doing? Please, save the excuse of "dating around" or "being young". All you are doing is causing yourself more emotional stress, or just outright using another individual's feelings. If it is attention you seek, go back to messaging 40 guys on Tinder with whom you'll never find happiness with. Date for commitment people! If it doesn't happen, then it doesn't. But, if you go into dating with a temporary mindset then that's all you will find. Remember, give is what you..... c'mon I know you're catching on by now.
Finally, don't be afraid to set your standards high. Odds are, your standards are pretty low. I'm not saying that life has to be like chick-flicks, but don't shy away from your true likes/dislikes. Oh, and by the way, at least romantic movies show viewers how they should be treated. If someone isn't your match, then don't force it! Stop settling for whatever you can get, or whomever comes your way. Everyone deserves a chance (unless you're a maniac) but not everyone deserves your undying love.
It's time that we put a new rulebook out for dating and relationships, because I don't think a lot of people understand how much damage they are causing themselves. Love is supposed to be a wild ride of emotions--but mainly, happiness. Knowing that you have found someone who can make you the angriest person in the world, but you can unconditionally love them for it.
But, I implore my readers, do not think that true love is the equivalent of the lochness monster. 20th century dating websites and media sources have brainwashed us into believing in a warped-kind-of-love. Stop crying over phones and playing games with one another-- this is to you flirty snapchat-ers! If you want something serious, start acting like it.
Because when the games stop, will you be a winner or a loser?
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