A lot of things frustrate me in life.
Smearing my nails after having worked extremely hard on painting them.
People who text and drive-- you know, the ones who sit at green lights.
When someone uses all the toilet paper, which leaves you to stare at an empty roll--or debate to cry for help.
However, what tops any toiletry problem is hearing this:
"Awh, I wish I had your relationship!"
"There aren't any guys out there for me..at least any good ones."
"OMG I CAN'T EVEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS SOO CUTE OMFG."
Alright, so the last one is a bit exaggerated, but you can imagine how someone's comment might have closely resembled it.
You would think I would appreciate these kind of outbursts. Honestly, I admire the thought, but it bothers me that people think a solid relationship is some kind of cosmic being. An unattainable rarity.
Almost like finding the toilet paper roll completely filled.
So yes, like most topics, I have to put my "two cents" into the love conversation and express what I firmly believe about relationships.
Numero Uno, (this is about all I got out of 4+ years of Spanish classes) if you are searching on "Tinder" for your soul mate, think again. Some people believe that what you put into the universe will come back to you. You know, be happy, get happy. Karma. Well, no matter how you slice it, the cliché quotes ring true for relationships. You will get what you give. If you are looking on a hookup website, all you will find is....? You can do the math.
PLEASE STOP WITH THE INSTAGRAM PICS. Okay, I will own up and say sometimes I've posted a selfie too many, but I never get it twisted with my bf. We used to be religious #mcm and #wcw posters, until we realized how silly we looked. Who do we need to prove our love to besides one another? And doing it through Instragram? Yuck! So please, stop looking for relationships because you want the "perfect couple photo". If you look close enough at cute bf/gf pics, you'll start to realize how ridiculous the matter is. I mean, who took the picture of them? How did they get the shot oh-so-flawless? Obviously some planning must have went into it, making the "effortless moment" all the more idiotic. Aka, there is more to a relationship then wanting the publicity.
Okay, so social media is alive, but since when is chivalry dead? I mean, I blame the 20th century media... but really, why is it dead? Let's bring some door-opening, courtship-goodness back into play! What's wrong with going "steady" with someone? What's wrong with a guy paying for your meal? Anymore it seems like a "hangout" at someone's house is sufficient for a first date. Please, please, please, go on many dates! If I could tattoo this across my back, I would. But that would obviously be rather insane. Instead, I stick to my bold font. GO ON DATES. Don't be the couple who tells people their romantic first-date consisted of chilling at someone's house. And the way the times are rolling, it seems that first dates are comprised of more than just "chilling". Wink, wink. I will not tread too deeply into that area, however, let me just use a wise saying my mother told me. "If a fire burns madly, it will burn out the quickest. However, it is the smaller flame that will burn the longest." I compare this saying to my love with my boyfriend, Matt. We were best friends before we started dating, and when we started dating, we went on several dates. In fact, our first date was at Friendly's-- I was too nervous to go to Red Lobster. Two years into our relationship now, we still go out all the time! Don't rush into things and just settle! Actually get to know the other person.
And not by just "hanging out" with them.
Speaking of temporary hook-ups: people are truly oblivious to commitments. My friends will tell me all the time that they are looking for someone special, but nothing too serious. How is anything "special", easy?!?! I mean, it's stupidity at its finest. You want love, make a commitment. If you aren't dating for a future, than what the heck are you doing? Please, save the excuse of "dating around" or "being young". All you are doing is causing yourself more emotional stress, or just outright using another individual's feelings. If it is attention you seek, go back to messaging 40 guys on Tinder with whom you'll never find happiness with. Date for commitment people! If it doesn't happen, then it doesn't. But, if you go into dating with a temporary mindset then that's all you will find. Remember, give is what you..... c'mon I know you're catching on by now.
Finally, don't be afraid to set your standards high. Odds are, your standards are pretty low. I'm not saying that life has to be like chick-flicks, but don't shy away from your true likes/dislikes. Oh, and by the way, at least romantic movies show viewers how they should be treated. If someone isn't your match, then don't force it! Stop settling for whatever you can get, or whomever comes your way. Everyone deserves a chance (unless you're a maniac) but not everyone deserves your undying love.
It's time that we put a new rulebook out for dating and relationships, because I don't think a lot of people understand how much damage they are causing themselves. Love is supposed to be a wild ride of emotions--but mainly, happiness. Knowing that you have found someone who can make you the angriest person in the world, but you can unconditionally love them for it.
But, I implore my readers, do not think that true love is the equivalent of the lochness monster. 20th century dating websites and media sources have brainwashed us into believing in a warped-kind-of-love. Stop crying over phones and playing games with one another-- this is to you flirty snapchat-ers! If you want something serious, start acting like it.
Because when the games stop, will you be a winner or a loser?
Sunday, June 28, 2015
Tuesday, June 9, 2015
Forget the Fairy Lights. Here's What Freshman Really Need to Know for College.
Hold it right there graduating high school seniors! Before you purchase three shower caddies, some sort of "boho" tapestry, and the entire college section from Target/Walmart, there is actual advice you desperately need to hear. I don't care if you know your major, have your entire schedule fixed, and are already settling on a roommate. Guess what, NONE OF IT MATTERS. AT ALL. While it's a thrill to feel like you're on top of everything for college, I have a secret to tell you...you never can be fully prepared!
However, I can enlighten you all with some meaningful words of wisdom that I wish someone would have told me before I started my college-journey.
Here is a list of things you actually need to know.
1.) Drop the shower caddy. NOW. Trust me, you'll get like 10 at your graduation party from either friends, family, or both. Which is useful when yours becomes moldy after freshman year.
2.) If you have a high-school sweetheart who you "actually" love, you can definitely make it in college. I can't tell you how many times I heard that my relationship was doomed because of people believing in college-taboos. Guess what, still going strong with my boyfriend. Take that naysayers.
3.) HOWEVER, if you are having some sort of "fling" with someone who you could really care less about, then save yourself the agony and break up with him/her. Sound heartless? It's better than hurting someone by posting pictures of you at the keg-races at the first fraternity party of the year.
4.) Shower-flops. Yes, you get used to them. Yes, it feels like you're walking to a prison shower.
5.) (For girls mostly) Decorating your room, they said. It'll be fun, they said. Okay, okay, it can be self-expressive and a great way to make college feel like home; however, think of the theory "what goes up, must come back down". What goes into the dorm room must come back in your mother's SUV/minivan.
6.) Don't be that person who brings a ton of swimsuits because your college has a pool. Usually the pool is used for swim team practices, and if you're actually trying in college, lounging by the pool isn't really part of your schedule.
7.) THE FRESHMAN 15 IS ONLY REAL IF YOU LET IT BE. It is a norm at colleges to have quality-gyms with reasonable hours. If you're living on campus, you can walk to the gym. Walking distance! I have never had access to a gym in the way that I do at my college. Take advantage of what your paying thousands of dollars for-- and I don't just mean the café-buffet.
8.) Freshman year in college isn't difficult. Okay, think I'm crazy? Think about it this way. In high school you sit in a class from about 7:30AM-3:00PM. Some schools have different schedules, but factor in after-school activities, mandatory sports study halls, and sitting on the bus (if you take it). High school you had (maybe) evenings and weekends to do homework/essay papers. In college, some days you only have one class. Just one. I'm not claiming that the workload isn't rigorous or that it doesn't require more papers/readings, but, you definitely have time to work ahead. Which brings me to my next tip...
9) If you're a procrastinator in college. You. Will. Die. This time I'm not kidding. You may not physically perish, but your stress level will most likely induce cardiac arrest. There honestly isn't any excuse for turning in assignments late or needing more time--I should know, I rewrote a whole paper the night before it was due on my roommate's laptop because mine decided to keel over suddenly. Why? Because it wasn't worth adding another paper to my plate for the following week. It wasn't worth pleading with a professor. Moral of the story, do your work when it is assigned. That way, when your roommate wants to watch Netflix with you, you can relax knowing you have everything in perfect harmony. *cues beautiful trumpets*
10) What the sharks in "Finding Nemo" really meant to say was, "Professors are friends. Not fools." Professors know when you're struggling. Professors know when you are succeeding. Professors probably know more about you than you do yourself. That's why it's to your benefit to email them with questions. Talk to them. Find out about all of the Nobel Prizes they've won. Read their published works which were (most likely) critically acclaimed by the president and the pope. Know who you are receiving weekly lectures from! Trust me, they can be the coolest, weirdest, and loveliest people you'll ever know. Most importantly, they can make your transition into college an incredible experience.
11.) Your parents aren't at college with you for a reason. Mommy, Daddy, or Aunt Norma can't help you with papers, homework, or talking to your professors. Time to put on your big-kid undies and speak to people on your own. Inquire. Question. Ask for help. It isn't like you're paying a ton of moolah for the college's academic resources or anything? Right?
12.) You will 99.9% change your major, pick up a new minor, decide to double major, or possibly even triple major. Your family knows you're going to be a doctor? Well, you might find that you love studying mushroom patterns in the exotic forests of Latin America instead. Life changes, as do majors.
13.) People say your roommate isn't going to be your "best friend". Yeah, they're right I guess. My roommate is like a sister to me and will be my roommate for the rest of college. Boom! Another myth busted.
14.) If you were popular in high school. I feel bad for you. Those who were in tight elite groups in high school tend to cling to their roots and their past. Don't be afraid to branch out and make entirely new friends in college. Is it really that beneficial to attend a college where all of your immediate friends are? How can you really grow in life if you just stick to what, or who, you know? Trust me, take a chance! College friendships can prove to be the best you've ever had. So, if you weren't the most outgoing in high school, don't worry, college is home to every sort of person. You will definitely find friends.
15.) I'll end it here. Sorry to be blunt. Honestly, I could (and probably will) write a novel on transitioning into college and what is worth knowing about it. However, I will leave my audience with the most vital advice I could give to any newbie-freshman:
Be who you want to be in college. I mean, maybe being known as the campus party-animal isn't always the best decision, but don't be afraid to try new avenues. If you like fashion, take some classes in it. Have a knack for politics? Run for student council! Change your major as much as you'd like. Go on a mission trip over Spring Break. Get an on-campus job. Don't EVER worry about the future, or how much money you will make. Trust me, save the tears and aggravation. You can't predict what will even happen tomorrow, so why bother with the future?
Enjoy what you have now because that's really all that is guaranteed.
Not even financial aid is guaranteed.
Monday, June 8, 2015
Baby Blog is Born!
Well, here goes! Starting out without any profile picture (reminds self to upload one) and the computer knowledge of a kindergartener, I am officially starting my blog. Please, have patience with my grammar and I. Yes, I am spending thousands of dollars each year to attend a private liberal arts college, but that doesn't mean my commas are always spot-on. Hopefully my English professors won't read this...I can just picture being slapped by the mandatory "Little Grammar Book" that we all had to purchase at the beginning of freshman year.
Moving on! I guess I should introduce my "theme" a bit to my readers, or to my cats (because who else is going to read this blog?). I had the inspiration several months ago to start a blog in which I write my ideas, opinions, daily thoughts, adventures, etc. I love to explore new hobbies and foods, so I figured I would post that on here too.
I'm keeping this initial blog short and to-the-point, so that I may start setting everything else up-- like an actual picture instead of the floating blue head in the bubble.
Hoozah! I have finally made a blog!
Moving on! I guess I should introduce my "theme" a bit to my readers, or to my cats (because who else is going to read this blog?). I had the inspiration several months ago to start a blog in which I write my ideas, opinions, daily thoughts, adventures, etc. I love to explore new hobbies and foods, so I figured I would post that on here too.
I'm keeping this initial blog short and to-the-point, so that I may start setting everything else up-- like an actual picture instead of the floating blue head in the bubble.
Hoozah! I have finally made a blog!
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